“I don’t want to remember more, now that I remember so much. I remember everything, but I don’t want to remember.”
— Octavio Paz, from Convergences: Essays; “Remember That Voice,”
“I don’t want to remember more, now that I remember so much. I remember everything, but I don’t want to remember.”
— Octavio Paz, from Convergences: Essays; “Remember That Voice,”
Both descriptions may apply to conjunctions.
Sextile, trine, or quintile Sun: The native has a well-defined sense of self & remarkable inner security. They thrive when in conflict with an oppressive force or structure & feed on all kinds of attention, positive or negative. They take pride in their radical traits; they are liberated by unapologetic self-expression. Shame is not part of their vocabulary. Social discord is entertaining. The identity relies on breaking stereotypes, standing out, or rebelling somehow. Hedonism can become a severe self-sabotaging issue if the enjoyment of freedom goes too far or inflates the ego to the point of unhealthy confidence. These people typically find trouble wherever they go, and are easily bored by rules & standards.
Square, opposite, or quincunx Sun: The native is constantly met with criticism, rejection, or exclusion for their individuality, and this causes them to hide or repress the most unique parts of themselves. They despise expectations, and when others have any measure of control over them they can become hostile or deeply troubled. They have a painful yearning for freedom but fear the reactions they are used to receiving. A significant amount of their energy will be spent learning how to express themselves openly & shamelessly. Social stigma or stifling of the identity in whatever form will be the primary catalyst for discovery and realization of self. They will be forced to accept themselves.
Sextile, trine, or quintile Moon: The native is comfortable exploring the darker & more unconventional parts of who they are. They instinctually understand their aberrant or taboo qualities, and they are not afraid of them; they’re naturally introspective when it comes to rejection or exclusion and intuitively realize what separates them from others. They use their emotions & imagination to highlight their individuality; they also find freedom in emotional expression. They are not tied down to the person they were raised to be, and do not limit themselves to a personal standard any more than a societal standard – they are able to break away from habitual conformity or self-stifling habits in general.
Square, opposite, or quincunx Moon: The native is emotionally upset by rejection and may cling to tradition or other metaphorical “safety blankets” developed in childhood in order to avoid social discord. They habitually repress their dark, taboo, or aberrant qualities out of discomfort & insecurity. They’re afraid of fully expressing themselves, and being free in their individuality is a frighteningly foreign concept; they shy away from situations that prompt them to stand out or rebel and will retreat into a shell of reservations when faced with the opportunity to break or bend a standard. The emotional equilibrium is ravaged by criticism, exclusion, and alienation. They feel painfully isolated.
Sextile, trine, or quintile Mercury: The native is able to logically analyze social stigmas & standards, and intellectually deconstruct the power those have over individual lives (especially their own). Reason consistently prevails over peer pressure. Their ideas and the way they communicate them are radical in some way and receive much attention, good or bad. Criticism is easily combated with the mind; they are able to see through others’ opinions and separate themselves from judgement, and are thus free to think the way they want to – free thought defines their mindscape, and they are lost without it. Mental/verbal exchanges shape their understanding of society. Controversy deeply intrigues them.
Square, opposite, or quincunx Mercury: The native has little faith in their ability to accurately comprehend themselves, others, or society as a whole, and therefore may place monumental importance on other people’s opinions. They are easily stressed by having to explain themselves or their actions; judgement and criticism easily shut them down. They are quick to label their ideas or their interpersonal & communicative mannerisms as strange and unwanted, so they may choose to be quiet and reserved rather than put their mind on display. They have a very difficult time defending themselves or rationalizing their place in a group. They can’t use their logical mind to escape twisted social structures.
Sextile, trine, or quintile Venus: The native easily merges personal freedom & social graces to create a naturally appealing individuality which gains positive attention & reactions from others, no matter how taboo or radical. Controversy is a part of the unique style; in other words, this person wears ignominy well, and may use it to their advantage in an attractive way. Others admire or romanticize their aberrant qualities. The native’s personal tastes and preferences support a happily outcast identity; criticism & judgement serve as signs of being socially relevant, and they make being different fashionable. Extreme hedonism is tied to this aspect, especially in relationships that aren’t widely acceptable.
Square, opposite, or quincunx Venus: The native is torn in a heightened conflict between individuality and conformity, particularly in the context of relationships or style. The vacillation between radical subversion of social standards and passive adherence to them is a matter of choosing between happiness and harmony, both of which are crucially important. The native may lose relationships or general popularity for their stigmatized qualities, which deeply harms their self-esteem. They wish to fully be themselves but cannot reconcile that with the risks that come with it – they are unsure of its worth, which subsequently leads to uncertain self-worth as a whole.
Sextile, trine, or quintile Mars: The native possesses an unconquerable willpower which seldom bends for anyone else, and there is little care for others’ disapproval of it. If something is desired, it is achieved; the expectations and opinions of other people have little to no influence. No social stigma, criticism, or oppressive standard can get in the way of the native’s drive. They regularly break rules and disregard structures that don’t serve their initiatives, and charge forward without waiting for anyone to forgive, accept, or get used to them. Their sexuality is openly expressed; they are proud of their taboo desires. Going against popular belief fuels their inner fire, impassions and excites them.
Square, opposite, or quincunx Mars: The native is easily infuriated by notions, structures, or actions which they perceive as threatening of their autonomy, and they typically react with hostility when others criticize or attempt to control them in any way. They are unable to handle judgement, often reject the opinions of others before they’ve even heard them, and thus usually have a narrow view of most things, lacking the capacity to see other perspectives. Their one-track mind can cause them to lack foresight & create immense social conflict/discord where it is not necessary or appropriate. All of this stems from a deep fear of of others defining them, so they invert it into aggressive opposition of others & abrasively assume the role of “outcast” before others can force them into it.
Sextile, trine, or quintile Jupiter: The native’s mind is filled with grand philosophies of the truth about society and why stigmas & standards must be broken for spiritual growth. They find enlightenment through liberation; freedom is more important to them than anything else because it fulfills them in every way and allows them to expand their intellect. Likewise, they use their intellect to expand their freedom, as well as the freedom of others. They may become something of a social pioneer or modern guru, teaching about the detrimental nature of the status quo and encouraging others to go against the norm. They don’t believe in conformity. Their beliefs separate them from the majority.
Square, opposite, or quincunx Jupiter: The native may attach to philosophies solely for the sake of controversy. They may become so invested in being different that they no longer care if they are right. Their morality is selfish; their beliefs & personal code revolve around a set of faux rules which permit them to be hedonistic or destructive for the sake of “liberation.” Unhealthy, harmful habits are proudly paraded around under the guise of self-empowered notions. Self-control feels unbearably limiting and stifling, even if it’s for their own good. They can become “special snowflake” types, and attempt to preach their flawed ideas so that others follow them in their “enlightened” lifestyle and thus validate it.
Sextile, trine, or quintile Saturn: Much of the native’s power comes from the innate ability to rework social limitations into structures that serve their purpose and growth. They are incredibly wise when it comes to the sensitivity of culture and know their place in society, as well as how to change it. They understand that freedom comes with responsibility and it does not come free; they possess the self-discipline necessary to cultivate true self-liberation and they aren’t afraid of putting in the effort to create the individuality they want to be known for. They handle stigma with grace, and rationally deconstruct the paradigms of others so that they begin to question why they believe in certain standards & “norms.”
Square, opposite, or quincunx Saturn: The native easily becomes consumed by the “process” of “becoming themselves” – they get caught up in the changes that need to be made within themselves or in their environment before they can allow themselves to be fully self-expressive. They limit themselves with their own expectations, can become hindered by tradition, and place too much importance on the judgement & disapproval of authority figures. They care about the structural integrity of society, and don’t wish to compromise its strength, so they tend to repress all that is aberrant, controversial, or radical about themselves; they see self-liberation as selfish, non-productive, and unnecessarily dissonant.
Sextile, trine, or quintile Uranus: The native possesses very extreme views and opinions on society which others either love or hate them for. They often behave outrageously for the fun of it, and do or say things that may cause discord because gives them an electric, purposeful feeling. They disregard all social limitations and couldn’t care less about acceptance. They are the bona fide rebel. Nothing & no one can prevent them from being the person they want to be. Liberation runs in their blood. They don’t believe in any social order which hinders individual autonomy, and they have a desire to change society to make room for “the atypicals” like them. They use their freedom to free others.
Square, opposite, or quincunx Uranus: Much of the traits for harmonious Lilith-Uranus aspects apply here as well, but in a harsher, more desperate sense. The native knows the pain and isolation of being rejected, humiliated, alienated, and ostracized, so they devote a lot of their energy to radically changing the social climate for the better. They have an ironic moral code; while they reject the morality of others, they follow their own rules. Their rebellion is decisive and purposeful rather than hedonistic or self-congratulating; they have a vision, a grand and noble goal of collective freedom which begins with them. They wish to change society almost as punishment for their oppressors.
Sextile, trine, or quintile Neptune: The native effortlessly, unconsciously evades social boundaries; cultural restrictions can’t contain them, because they slip away from rules and judgement non-violently, mysteriously. They live almost independent of social structure, outside of the realm of conformity. Others often romanticize their aberrant qualities & paint them as figures of graceful rebellion & unapologetic individuality, even though they may not intend to come across as such – they are just existing, but they do so with a gentle limitlessness envied by others. They draw inspiration and spiritual fulfillment from liberation, and feel most free when their soul (or subconscious mind) is uninhibited.
Square, opposite, or quincunx Neptune: The native is easily confused or lost within social boundaries; they can’t comprehend others’ judgements or the rules placed upon them, and this creates deep interpersonal discomfort which invades the subconscious mind and the soul, surfacing through dreams, art, & emotions (which are the only places they feel free). They may cling to religion/spirituality to find their individuality. They can’t differentiate external standards from interior goals/desires and often chase ideals that aren’t their own. Others demonize their aberrant qualities and label them inaccurately. They liberate themselves through deceit, illusion, and escapism, as it is the only way they know how to.
Sextile, trine, or quintile Pluto: The native is intimately connected to their individuality, possessing a raw, resilient relationship to the darkest parts of who they are which separate them from others. They are immensely courageous when it comes to experiencing the taboo & controversial parts of society, entirely unafraid of things others try to ignore. They transform through unapologetic self-expression, and find rebirth through liberation. Their sexuality is deep and powerful, extreme and different, and they are proud of this; it is part of their identity, part of the way they rebel from society’s control over ego. They never allow society or other people to control them in any way. They own themselves.
Square, opposite, or quincunx Pluto: The native is terrified of being controlled, and has extremely adverse emotional reactions to anything they perceive as having the potential to limit their freedom. They are paranoid of society’s power to erase individuality. They go to severe measures to protect their identity and autonomy, resorting to secrecy, manipulation, lies, and hostility to defend what they are afraid will be taken from them or exposed. They are fundamentally ashamed, guilty, and fearful; criticism and judgement harms their self-image. Their dark, taboo, aberrant traits are out of control, particularly their “unacceptable” sexual desires. They’re ruled by an obsession with individuality & liberation, which ironically damages or decreases their individual freedom.
When something is truly ment for you, it will always be yours. Don’t fight the flow, you don’t have to try so hard. Resistance creates blocks. If it goes let it go. If it comes let it come. Trust in that.
Aquarius Venus/Mars get turned on by someone who can argue semantics with them on equal footing. They love feeling intellectually superior but honestly in a partner they need someone who will humble them and can go toe to toe. They need to respect their partner to truly love them and can’t do so if their partner fails to keep up mentally.
conjunction/trine between Sun-Sun, Sun-Mercury, Mercury-Mercury
Understanding the other person, their character, their mind and ideas. Without good communication any relationship can turn bad no matter how good the Venus/Mars aspects are.
conjunction/trine Moon-Pluto, Moon-Venus, Sun-Moon(a favourite of mine), Moon-Mercury
Aspects with the Moon can create attachment to the other person. Feeling free to express what you feel/how you are/etc. It creates a “safe” environment. The Moon-Pluto can be a very intense, emotional relationship and a bond to the point of feeling empty without the other person. Generally all of these can create dependency on the other person and a feeling of being cared for. The Moon-Mercury can create a “therapy” type of relationship,because Mercury can help Moon deal with how they feel, understand their point.
conjunction/trine between Moon-Mars(best if the woman has the Moon)
Feminine and masculine energy collide. The Mars is protective and caring over the Moon, the Moon nurtures and softens Mars. This is why it could be a “baby making” aspect. It connect the energies between two people. Mars looks at Moon as their softer, more fragile companion. It could create very strong intimacy between two people and it can be very obvious. These are the couples that always touch or are next to eachother in public. Mars has their arm over Moon, in a protective manner, Moon has their hand over Mars, they want them to know they’re “there” for them.
conjunction/trine between Venus and Mars(again, it’s best if the woman has the Venus)
A favourite of many astrologers. It creates a strong physical attraction. The Venus person has everything Mars finds sexually attractive, but in a softer way. The Venus person has the feminine energy the mars are missing and need in order to feel satisfied. Even if the relationship isn’t romantic, there is a lot of chemistry between these two, they are always close to eachother, their bodies feel “good” are eachother. It can create a great sexual relationship.
conjunctions/trines between Venus-Venus, Mars-Mars
Although it doesn’t give the chemistry like the Venus-Mars does, it can create a great relationship. With the Venus-Venus aspects(conjunction or trine) two people will have a similar way of loving, showing affection, style and appreacite the same kind of beauty in things. With a Mars-Mars aspect(conjunction or trine) they will have the same pace. Great sexual chemistry due to them expressing their primal physical needs in a similar way. It can create a lot of passion, although there might be a lack of emotional attachment(depends on the other aspects)
conjunction/trines between Jupiter-Sun/Moon/Venus
These can create a very happy relationship. With the sun aspecting jupiter there can be ego boosting coming from both sides, motivating the other person, helping them grow and experience different things. Moon-Jupiter is a very happy aspect, the Jupiter person will always make Moon happy whenever they’re around. Jupiter-Venus is a great love aspect, a very loving and happy relationship. When it’s longterm(often it can be), the love grows more and more.
trines/conjunctions with Saturn
Although they can get a lot of negativity when talked about, I find these aspects very helpful. They can create struggle/you can call it “tough love”, but it’s great for learning a different perspective, becoming more mature and learning how to handle things in a relationship. These aspects are the ones that will make people not give up on a relationship(especially if they’re trine/conjunct the other person’s Moon/Venus/even Midheaven).
Planets in the partner’s 7th House
Dependency, always considering your partner’s opinion before taking any kind of action, this is the partneship placement which is great for the long-term. These people can become a union and always be together. They see the other person as their other half and can feel empty without them, once they found them.
Planets in the partner’s 4th House
Nurture, love, care, affection. This relationship is a savior for both parties. They will feel like they’ve found their home in the other person. Good for the long-term. It can turn people dependent on their partner, always needing them for support and not feeling good when they’re not around.
trine/conjunction between Juno-Venus, Juno-Jupiter, Juno-Moon
Great for marriage, the Juno person feels like they get everything they want from their partner in order to stay with them whether that’s emotional connection, the affection they want, happiness(depends on the planet).
“i want your heart, and i think i mean to eat it.”
— Taylor Steele, from “brown sex,” published in Maps for Teeth
ASCENDANT in house overlays: “Welcome to my life”
Scorpio energy will be engulfing Sagittarius season for the beginning of December. The Moon must pass through Scorpio before cycling to its Sagittarius New Moon phase. Mercury and Venus are sitting in Scorpio as we speak. The last phase of healing as begun. Prepare for your final tests. It is up to you whether you want to face your truth and expand your horizons like that of Sagittarius or remain stagnant in your denial of transformation and renewal. Sometimes change can be difficult, but ‘death’ and ‘rebirth’ belong to the natural order of things. We all go through it. Don’t deny your truth. Be honest with yourself. Own up to your darkness, destroy it, and begin your journey as someone new. These are the lessons of Scorpio and Sagittarius.
This is based solely off of my personal experience and impressions of the rising signs. May also apply to Venus or Sun. xx
Aries rising: You’re so direct about everything and your playful teasing is a huge turn on. You’re not afraid to make the first move and it’s sexy as fuck. Naturally toned body and chiseled jawline mmmfffff
Taurus rising: Sexy voice/laugh. You’re a good kisser and you have the most attractive arms and shoulders. Very touchy-feely in the most casual way yet it’s still so seductive. Great at dirty talk
Gemini rising: Cat eyes that can seduct nearly anyone who looks into them. You’re so aloof and detached it draws people in. The way you so effortlessly float around when you’re walking. Sexy legs
Cancer rising: Something about your innocence seems to drive people crazy. Great kissers and glowing skin. An intimate, sensual lover that anyone would love to share a night with. Nice stomachs, Great style
Leo rising: Such a bold presence it shakes up the room when you enter. You’re hard to ignore by the way you carry yourself. Vivacious and/or athletic body. Sexy eyes and laugh
Virgo rising: Something about how soft spoken and delicate you are makes me wonder what you’d be like in bed. Mmmm you have such attractive hands/arms. Veiny. You always seem as if you’re reading into me and it’s intimidating (which is SEXY)
Libra rising: TALL, Athletic bodies, Big hands, Great facial structure. You’re soooo hot when you moan. Great kissers and you always know where to put your hands ughhhjgks. Penetrating stare
Scorpio rising: You’re always so detached I want to know what you’re thinking of. Even if I don’t personally find you attractive you still end up in my fantasies. You’re quiet and well-spoken which is a turn on. Sexually intriguing
Sagittarius rising: The nicest butt you will ever see and you don’t even work out wtf?? So sexually open you’ll never leave them guessing if you like them or not, it’s incredibly obvious (HOT). 20 crushes at once and 90% of them like you back. Adventurous af in bed
Capricorn rising: You have a powerful energy that follows you everywhere, some find it intimidating and others find it sexy (or both). Dominating vibes. You seem kinky af but I think you really crave intimate sex
Aquarius rising: Sexy bodies. Seductive voices. Usually covered in lots of scars/scratches/birth marks which is attractive. Piercing eyes and a stare that lets you know what they’re thinking
Pisces rising: The way you share everything is a huge turn on. I always get the feeling you’re thinking about sex and it makes me curious. KINKY as FUCK. DTF anywhere and very sexually open. Nice butts
